You know those videos about how porn is bad for you? Or the ones where a guy gives up looking at porn for 7 days and his erections come back? Or where once porn was out of the way romance flourished and libido was rekindled?
Well, it has been almost two months for me. I avoided Tumblr and ‘those’ sites since just after the start of June. The most porn I would see was when I would pop through (quickly) my friend’s sites to see what they were up to. My blogs went on queued data or I just up and stopped posting on them.
So what happened? My libido died. Thoughts of sexy times with my wife and friends went from ‘we need to make this happen’ to ‘oh, ok’. My sexual creativity dropped off the charts. Instead of sex being an event to look forward to it became something to get out of the way. A pleasurable something mind you but still a distraction. Kind of like eating when you are hungry but just don’t want the bother of eating.
My working hypothesis for this? For some people porn is good. Like the study about casual sex being good for some people (here for example) I suspect that for some people porn (videos, images, books, thoughts) is like exercise.
So the hard question is, just like when you stop any other exercise program, how do you restart? Before my fast I would be curious about what was out there. I have a Feedly set up by genre (as I found a blog I liked I added to the category that best fit it) but I have no desire to go digging through it now. I’m not up for chatting with people about sex. Hell, it has been a life long love to hear why people find the things that turn them on exciting. I just don’t care now. I feel like a kid who’s been passed over for the team so many times they just don’t feel like trying out again.
It is an interesting turn of events.